Tuesday, April 30, 2013

I am whomever you say I am.

I am whomever you say I am.
I am whomever you label me.
You don't give me a chance to show you the depth,
that I know resides in me.
You see what my status says,
or the clothes that I wear.
You decide who I am before you know me.

I am whomever you say I am.
I am whomever you label me.
You see a political activist,
you label me a conspiracist.
You see a non-mainstream parent,
you label me attachment.
You decide who I am before you know me.

I am whomever you say I am.
I am whomever you label me.
You see me nursing a toddler,
you label me a sexual deviant.
You see me planting a garden,
you label me a free-range hippie.
You decide who I am before you know me.

I am whomever you say I am.
I am whomever you label me.
You see me teaching kids at home,
you label me a religious fanatic.
You see me running around without a bra,
you label me a feminist.
You decide who I am before you know me.

I am whomever you say I am.
I am whomever you label me.
You decide before you know me.




So who are you?
-The Anti-Mainstream Mom


Sunday, April 28, 2013

Dear Plugged Ducts, -Eff Off.

22 months. I have gone 22 months of nursing without a single hiccup other than thrush. Not a single bout of plugged ducts, mastitis or horrible latch. She was a champion nurser from the get go and it didn't show any signs of stopping. It looked like our nursing career was going to be great. Simple. Easy. One of those that makes breastfeeding seem like the most natural, instinctual, gravy on the biscuits things in life. Then, bam!, plugged ducts.

Whoever said nursing was simple obviously hadn't suffered through plugged ducts. This is hell. Hell, I'm telling you!! I want to scream. I want to cut my breast off. This is down right the most horrible experience in my 22 months I have had. Nursing hurts now. It's enough to make me feel so horrible for any mom who has had to deal with this. How did you survive!?!

Okay, okay. I might be going a bit over the top. Or a lot over the top-but hey, this sucks! But seriously, I cannot wait for the ducts to finally be cleared. My ducts is right behind to the left (or is that right) of the nipple and it makes latching the most painful experience ever. I'm so engorged in that area that her teeth are leaving indentions in my breast. Yikes! Thank goodness she isn't biting me too.

So what ways can you treat plugged ducts. None of them are a cake walk, but it has to be done to prevent mastitis.

  • Nurse, nurse, nurse and nurse again. Start with the breast with the blocked duct. If it hurts too much start on the other side until you feel let down and then switch back. Nurse as frequently as possible and aim to empty the breast.
  • Rest. Resting as much as you can  will help. 
  • Proper hydration. Do not stop drinking fluids, in fact, drinking more fluids can really be helpful.
  • Use heat and compression before and during nursing to help empty your breast. 
  • Make sure latch is correct and try positions such as nursing on all fours or "dangle" nursing. 
  • Pump/hand express after feedings to remove as much milk as possible. 
  • Cold compresses afterwards to help with swelling and pain. 
  • Ibuprofen to help with pain relieve and swelling. If you cannot use ibuprofen, then acetaminophen alone will work. 
  • Garlic, raw and fresh. 2-8 cloves a day chopped up into chunks and taken like a pill. This will work to prevent any infection that might be brewing. 
So at that note... I guess I should go nurse this plug out.


Resources
Bonyata, K. 2011, July 27 Plugged ducts and mastitis. Kellymom.com

Thursday, April 25, 2013

A Peak Into Our Life

I forgot to do Wordless Wednesday. I really thought I would do it, but yikes, I forgot. So instead, I figured I'd share a few pictures over the last few days to give you a glimpse into our little life. We aren't a "busy" family. All our activity comes from what we do around our little homestead. So here you go....




















Monday, April 22, 2013

Monday Musing and Our Meal Plan


Monday, Monday, oh Monday!! *sigh*

This past week has been an interesting one. I have teamed up with another sponsor and will be reviewing their product and hosting another giveaway shortly after the Chasing Cloud giveaway is over. I've been dealing with milk blisters and clogged ducts and horrible nursing. Hey, no one said nursing a kid at 22 months would be easy! And then there is the gardening, laundry and getting everything ready for summer. {Why did I type that while singing Cinderella? Oh yeah, we watch it daily here. Family favorite.} It's been busy around our tiny little home, and while I wouldn't have it any other way, it would be nice to have 20 minutes of a break and enjoy the trees blooming.

So what's exciting? Well, a few friends of mine and I are teaming up for a mutli-person blog that will showcase different aspects of parenting that we all focus on. Pretty excited for it's launch on May 1st! What a great day to launch our new blog too.

With the kids we are working on our Schooling Adventures and I hope to be able to update the area on that shortly. It is amazing what nature teaches you. We are focusing on growing and catching our own food and ways to prepare it this summer. The 4 year old is very excited for this. He loves fishing and mushroom hunting.

I'm working on getting enough goods together to launch my own Etsy store. I'm pretty excited. I'm going to be offering Mama Cloth, Nursing Pads, Nursing Covers, Wet Bags, Dryer Balls and Personal care products. It's coming along, but then with finding time for everything my head is spinning.

I was given new pots and pans today. My mom gifted me a brand new set of Rachael Ray pots and pans with utensils! I'm pretty stoked about that one. I also received a Big Boss single serving blender set (think Magic Bullet). It is awesome. I have been enjoying iced coffees and smoothies. The things I have in store for it! 

So that leaves me at the meal plan.

I'm thinking about doing it differently now. Today I went and did about 3-4 weeks worth of grocery shopping. I'm going to now be making my meal plans based off what I have on hand and work on just replenishing my stock when I need to each week/month.

So what's to eat you ask?

Breakfast
Chipped beef and gravy on biscuits
Bacon and Eggs
French Toast
Omelets x2
Southern Skillet
Pancakes

Lunch
Sandwiches and Veggies
Leftovers
Spaghetti

Dinner/Supper
Sandwiches and Fruit
Chicken Stir-fry
Burgers and Fries
Chicken and Dumpling on Mashed Poatatoes
Parmesean Salmon and Broccoli
Mexican Fiesta Night x 2

So excited for this next week ahead. With all the rain we're getting my lettuce is just a growing. You can see the difference daily. I cannot wait until we are harvesting our fresh food and enjoying it! 

Oh, did I mention I was able to get avocado's for a.25 a piece today! I bought 16 to cut and freeze using my vacuum sealer.

Inspire me- what's on your menu this week!?

Hugs & Coffee, 
-The Anti-Mainstream Mom
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Friday, April 19, 2013

Preparing Your Mind and Body for Labor


One of the most challenging and fulfilling experiences in life is giving birth. It is a test of will and strength that is like no other. But just like any races or workout you begin, you do not want to go into in unprepared, mentally and physically. Below are several ways you can begin to prepare your body and mind for labor.



Mentally: By far, labor is a mental game. Being prepared and understanding what each stage of labor is going to bring will allow your mind and body to stay in the game far longer. You can prepare mentally by:



Visualization: Visualizing your birth experience and how you want to handle each change is a

great way to plan. Walk yourself through how you feel early/latent labor going, where do you

plan on laboring at, is there music, etc. Do this for each stage. Writing it down can often help

you affirm your plan. Make it positive, but also visualize how you would handle unexpected

circumstances. 
 


Prayer/Meditation: Using prayer and meditation to release your positive energy and thoughts to

direct your birth. Ask your religious Deity for support during labor. Turn to Scripture or Religious

text to prepare you.

Don't get hung up on the “What ifs?”: Every birth experience from mother to mother and even

baby to baby is going to be different. Don't get hung up worrying about what could have or

should have happened. You might be planning and preparing for a homebirth, but a natural

hospital birth can be just as fulfilling if you allow yourself the chance to enjoy it. Life changes

constantly, be prepared to roll with them.




Let go of your fears: It's a little know, not talked about in the OB office fact that fear can slow

or even stall your progress. Let go of fears and trust in your innate ability to birth your baby and you will be able to handle any obstacle that arises.



Focus on Baby: The ultimate goal here is a happy, healthy baby. Remembering that your are

working for the baby and not the method in which you get there will take a lot of stress off.

Yes, every woman wants her ideal birth, and there is nothing wrong with working towards that,

but do not become so hung up on the birth experience that you forget the reason you are

birthing.


Physically:

Just like preparing for a race, you want to train your body. You do not want to get the point of pushing and not have the stamina to continue. Because birth is a race of it's own kind, you want to prepare your body in accordance. Below are a few ways to prepare your body physically.


Gentle Exercise: I am not advocating you going out and doing some high end workout routine or

beginning a couch to 5k training, but you do want to gently exercise your body. Great ways to

do this are yoga and walking. The point of gentle exercise is to not wear yourself out, but to

increase your stamina so that you can go further and longer when birth begins.



Hydration: Often women are so tired of running to the restroom at the end of labor you'll find

them drinking less and less. This is the exact opposite of what you want to do. Being hydrated

has profound benefits on your birth experience. You will find that contractions can feel stronger

when you are dehydrated or your other muscles will cramp up. Since most hospitals do not allow

you to drink, you want to be well hydrated going in.



Breathing: This is very important to a runner, a dancer and even a birthing mother. Your

breathe is a very powerful and controlling action. During labor, you have the ability to breathe

yourself through the contractions, even when you think you aren't able. Start learning coping

breathes now so that when labor comes, you are prepared with the ones you want to try.



Stretching: Stretching your muscles daily will help prevent cramps and tightening during labor.

The looser and more relaxed you can be during labor the easier it will be for you to handle

the contractions.



Kegel Exercises: Kegel exercises are used to strengthen the pelvic muscles to aide in a better

birth. These should be performed daily to increase their effectiveness. They should be done 30

times a day and held for 30 seconds. To do them you flex your muscles like you would stop your

urine.



Perineum Massage: Massaging of the perineum during pregnancy works to increase the elasticity

to prevent tears or the need of an episiotomy during delivery. While this can be done on your

own, it is much easier and effective if you have your partner do it for you. 


**This is actually a document I wrote for my childbirth education classes. Please ask permission before reprinting.** 

Hugs & Coffee, 
-The Anti-Mainstream Mom  



Sources
Beier, Catherine. (2013, April 5). You want a natural vaginal birth, but have you prepared for it?. Retrieved from www.givingbirthnaturally.com
McBride, Tocarra. (2011, July 4). Natural way to prepare your body for the birth of a baby. Retrieved from www.livestrong.com
Clark, Sarah. (2010, September 20). 1o ways to prepare a mom for a great birth. Retrieved from www.mamabirth.blogspot.com

Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Wordless Wednesday

This is my first Wordless Wednesday. I'm excited. So... shhhhh!!!!

My Daughter in Robots and My Son in Red.

Monday, April 15, 2013

Monday Musings and Our Meal Plan

I was attempting to do Friday Musings, but it wasn't really working for me. Friday's get so busy that I end up side tracked and never make it to it. So here instead we will be doing a my musings on Monday with the added bonus of our families meal plan for the week. I think this is going to work out better. I have an abundance of free time to get Monday's blog post up and running.

So for the meals this week. All foods are homemade/from scratch unless otherwise noted. We are not gluten free at the moment, but will be slowly working our way towards it. I have to learn to bake gluten free bread. Bit of a learning curve for me.

Breakfast
Pancakes x 2
Bacon and Eggs
Omelet with Veggies
Biscuits and Gravy x 2
Country Skillet

Lunch
Spaghetti with Pesto & Alfredo or Red Sauce
Sandwiches & Fresh Veggies x3
Leftovers x 3

Dinner
Enchilada's
Tuna Noodle Casserole
Flank Steak and Baked Sweet Potatoes with Broccoli
Stuffed Shells and Red Sauce
Tacos/Burritos
Cheeseburgers and French Fries
Chicken and Vegetables

Snacks
Fruits and Veggies
Cookies
Popcorn

All breads and such will be made from scratch. I refuse to pay for anything that contains high fructose corn syrup or aspartame. Just can't do it. Might be why I'm the Anti-Mainstream Mom. ;p

Hugs & Coffee, 
-The Anti-Mainstream Mom







Sunday, April 14, 2013

Chasing Clouds Essential Oil Review (And a Giveaway!)

Recently I was on the market for an affordable and excellent quality essential oil to add to my doula bag. While I like the big name brands, I just can't afford them right now and I would much rather contribute to a small business any way. So as I was rummaging around on the various big names pages I thought, "Why not check Etsy!?"

And boy was I pleased.

There aren't but a handful of stores on Etsy who sell EOs, but I kept search and reading about everyone I found. And finally decided to order from two store. While I am most happy with both stores, the one I find even more inviting and feel like I am getting the best quality from is featured today.


Chasing Clouds stole my eye by their unique name and variety in their store. They not only offer oils, but vintage homemaking items and more. They are located in Canada with a great shipping rate to America. They respond quickly and get your order processed in a 2-3 day turn around. Their customer service is amazing and you can message them asking for paperwork on their oils and what they tested at. All their oils are therapeutic grade. 


So now on to the oils.


I am reviewing three oils today from their product line. They variety they offer is amazing, but these are my three favorite. And for good reason!

1. Lemon
I love lemon. It's a great refresher and works really well with my doula clients and around my house. Mixed with vinegar it can make everything smell squeaky clean and fresh while disinfecting. For my doula clients who might be battling some nausea during labor and delivery it can help calm a upset tummy. This smell of this oil is so pure. It literally smells like someone fresh zested a lemon in front of you. It is organic and amazing!

2. Clove-Stem (sadly this product is discontinued in their shop)
As a mom of young kids who are teething, this one is essential (pun intended) for me. Clove oil is a great numbing agent and works wonders in the mouth and teeth area. The smell of this is like fresh ground cloves. Spicy and sweet and aromatic, this is great for cleaning with if you like the spicier smell. But it's true benefit lies in it's use as a numbing agent. **This always needs to be diluted with a carrier oil and should not be used by pregnant woman.**

3. Thievery
Thievery oil is worth it's weight and value in gold. This oil began with it's own legend and has since proven itself time and time again. Chasing Clouds version holds it up to that standard and assures the highest quality. Their version can be used neat (straight) or diluted for use in children and infants and works best on your feet or as a disinfectant mixed with water. When you open the bottle you smell the variety of oils that go into making this blend so valuable. With a blend of clove, eucalyptus, lemon, cinnamon and rosemary you are getting a powerhouse of healing in one bottle. This is a must have in the house at all times. And Chasing Clouds makes it affordable without sacrificing quality.

In fact, I'm such a fan of their Thievery blend, that I want to offer you a chance to win a 2mL bottle! 



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**This review and giveaway was sponsored by Anti-Mainstream Mom.

Hugs & Coffee,
-The Anti-Mainstream Mom 

Wednesday, April 10, 2013

*Planting a garden, Planting a garden*

We just recently moved to get more off "the grid" and we are taking the first, albeit, baby steps towards living our more natural, anti-mainstream life. Even though we practice several non-mainstream {or as we call them here on AMM anti-mainstream} we are always looking to increase what we do and raise our children cleaner. One of these ventures is in our family garden this year. Combined with the produce we produce, the access we have to local grass-fed meats and living right outside an Amish community we will have a plethora of other fruits and veggies to sustain us for the summer/fall months not to mention being able to store for winter.
Our garden plots. Aside from these two SFG boxes we have 4 large drums that we are going to grow crops in.
Our goal is to produce enough to feed us for most of our summer/fall dinners and put away what we can. By doing this we picked the vegetables our kids like the most and what we eat most frequently. Our kids are different than most. Broccoli is actually their favorite! Not that I'm complaining.

noah digging
Our large bed has a trellis for some of our vine plants.
So what are we growing?

3 Broccoli
20 Green Onion Plants
18 Green Bean Plants
8 Spinach Plants
Mixed Greens (Mescalin Blend)
Black Seed Lettuce
Butter Lettuce
4 Cucumbers
4 Summer (Yellow) Squash
4 Acorn Squash
4 Zucchini
4 Watermelon
4 Cantaloupe
4 Tomato
4 Bell Peppers
Countless Carrots 
Assorted Herbs (Chives, Cilantro, Basil, Rosemary, Parsley, etc.)


We are pretty excited for growing our garden. Even started it before the New Moon so it would grow in favor with the moon cycle. We are very excited and can barely contain our joy to see what lessons growing a garden brings for us. 

And I think our garden was greeted with lots and lots of rain! I'm taking it as a sign of good fortune. 

So what are you growing?


Hugs & Coffee, 

-The Anti-Mainstream Mom
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